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hi, welcome to PC. this question shows love and support for the special person in your life. i am the addict in our couple with 5 years freedom from pain pill abuse. so i can only speak from my side. if i had to be around people a lot who were using my same abuse substance it would probably be more tempting to me.
in recovery we are urged to get "new playgrounds and new playmates". changing where we go to relax and who we hang around with can be vital in keeping our recovery going. if you can cheerfully do without drinks during fun time with your lady, then that would be very cool and thoughtful of you. if you can't totally do without maybe you could minimize it some for her sake and not just go totally without.
addiction affects the loved ones of an addict so my honest "advice" should you wish to consider it would be to go into recovery for yourself - i never met anyone with no hurts , no habits and no hang ups - therefore anyone can benefit from what the 12 step programs offer.
truthfully i grew up in 12 step programs and learned so much my dysfunctional family could not teach me as a child. i wish you all the best and hope you find encouragement here on this forum, there are lots of great people here!
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