take it from someone who has been there, you can do it all, for a time. then you can crash and burn. i had a nervous breakdown and can't leave the house now. i crashed 2 years ago. they are offering help. if you can't give up control, just have her report things to you for approval. i look back and if i had had someone to help, but that i got to teach to do it my way, i may not have crashed so hard.

good luck and take care
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