ok-
in spite of myself I'll try one last metaphor -
(if you choose to see personal reflection on ones own experience as a challenge for finding and pointing out holes in the cognition- so be it - its a temptation that is hard to resist )-
I come to your house for a picnic. I wont eat the beans.
Hostess: "Why arent you eating?"
Guest :" it has too much salt for my taste."
Hostess: "That cant be accurate. I followed the recipe and everyone else is eating it."
Guest: " I find it too salty so I dont want it."
Hostess: " Well theres nothing wrong with it. Why dont you go next door and see if they have something that suits you. This is how its always been since my forefathers brought the recipe and its just right! Youre in error for not finding it as tasty as the other guests."
OK- proceed with the taking up intelectual arms and catch-phrases and poking holes. . . I'm not hungry anymore any way