you escape by helping yourself and going to your counseling sessions and doing what your lawyer thinks is best for you.....you help yourself by taking advice from the people who want to help you, not destroy you....you're doing great, i think...look how far you've come since you first posted here!!!! i'm impressed at how you're handling things considering all that you've experiencing. try not to focus on the ex so much and focus on doing things for you....take care of you.......let that other **** slide. clean one room....start small.....you do one room and i'll do my den? fair??? xoxox pat