I am recovering from SI too. I am not recovered. I don't know when/if I'll SI again. Having said this I can share some suggestions that have helped me. When I'm angry and can't confront I can write in my journal what I'm upset about and what I'd like to say to the person I'm upset with. Sometimes the person I'm upset with is me. Also, I know that the more frequently I SI the easier it is to. It can be an addiction so that's why it gets easier and easier the more often and closer in between incidents. Check out the thread about all the things to do instead of. Boatloads of ideas. I already contributed on what to do instead of so I hope you find some answers that will work for you.