Would love to hear other folks input on how they deal with being triggered and the subsequent fallout afterward.
How many friends are left in the wake?
Has it caused job loss?
Has a relationship ended over the PTSD outbursts?
What do you do to make amends? Do you even try to make amends?
Do you continue on as if nothing happened hoping that ppl will forget your behaviours and actions and words? In this case does that meas that if someone attempts to discuss this with you that you'll become angry and would rather end the friendship than face the reality of having been in a triggered state and reacted in a hurtful fashion to those you care about?
Just some ponderings about how triggered I used to be and what triggers I deal with now.
I feel badly for those who are not able yet to apologize to those they've hurt because they are stuck in a place where apologizing is superficial lacking sincerity. Most folks who have PTSD from childhood abuse/neglect learned to apologize and people please early on and their apologies in my experience are merely another coping mech. that is automatic and not hitting the internal stuff. LIke saying sorry when you're not even aware of what you're saying you're sorry for. PTSD is NOT an excuse for behaviour however it can explain some rather atrocious behaviour by those we love.
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