Wow, I'm so sorry. I would say go find another psychiatrist, if this one won't listen to you. I had one shrink mis-diagnose me as just Depression, then the anti-depressants made me manic - but I didn't really know what mania was back then, but when I told the next shrink all the crazy stuff I did (binging, shopping, sex, etc.) all she did was judge me for being a wh*re, and she never once mentioned Bipolar to me.

Three years later.....I finally have a correct diagnosis.

Just saying - sometimes you have to go doctor-shopping to finally get the correct diagnosis.

That said, some of your symptoms could also be Borderline - the black/white thinking with your husband, impulsivity, etc. But there is a lot of overlap between Bipolar II and Borderline - could be either/or, or both.