River X,
Sorry, east coast here. LOL
I feel your jealousy and pain. I did not react the same way (the jealousy) because I refuse to believe that my relationship with him is the same as anyone else's. However, the pain of wishing for more is real.
I am the mother of three and my close relationship with one child does not negate the meaning of the relationship with another. Each is unique and special. I hope that therapeutic relationships are the same.