There have been few more incidents where Jonathan has been really insulting and angry and...mean. Weird, because he will cry and tell me he's sorry, that he doesn't know what's come over him, and a couple of hours later he's at it again. It's been really hard and it really hurts. He's aiming for all my shame buttons with both barrels and creating false memories to "back it up". I tried defending myself - that didn't work. I've tried just detaching (I'm sorry to hear you feel that way") and that didn't do much either. It really hurts a lot.

Last night, Jonathan finally went away and Jonny came out and I just burst into tears. He asked me what was wrong. I hate "tattling" on anyone, but I told him that things weren't right between Jonathan and me, that I was worried about him. He was quiet for a moment and then he cried "S***!" and all heck broke loose in there.

About half an hour later, Jonny and J.T. came out to talk with me. From what they told me, Jonathan's been under attack. Apparently, the therapy sessions are stirring up things that have lain dormant for a long time. Some of these...fragments...have been "using" Jonathan, taking over like a parasite or as if he's being possessed. That sure would explain a lot...

Has anybody dealt with anything like this?
Is there anything I could be doing to help?
Anything I SHOULDN'T be doing?

If you have an alter that's hostile to your SO, how would you want your SO to handle it?
How would you want your SO to respond to (verbal, emotionally abusive) attacks?

I'm trying to remember that this really isn't as personal as it seems. We KNEW therapy would start mixing things up and that it would probably get harder before it gets better. It's just...the attacks are SO personal.