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Originally Posted by e_sort
cant,
i did read it all. i don't think you're wrong to be upset. if it were me i sure as hell would have cried, and i really REALLY would not have wanted to do that. (I have done it -- a few years ago a boss told me he thought i was stealing from him, was pretty sure about it in fact and was none too nice about it. I wasn't. )
but one way to think of it is that now you know EXACTLY what the score is. there's no mystery about how people at work feel about you (at least some of them, in this Dr. A's version). if you think that as long as you're getting your job done and your manager is happy, then it shouldn't matter, you're right. it's also normal and human to want to be liked.
In a way he's done you a favor. That's probably how he thinks of it in fact. But you have a place to start from, you know? there are so many ways to befriend people in an office. Unless you've really screwed someone, people are usually pretty willing to be won over. if you just want to say, to hell with these jerks, that's fine too. the point is now you know and you have a choice.
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Thank you for reading it all and being able to relate. And for putting it in a different light. You're right, no more fooling myself, I know the exact score now (never mind that its with me in the negative!). I will have to try harder at being something I'm not. I was telling one friend I do have here about it this morning and she was crying, so I know she knows that what he said is not true, but there are a few people here, like I said, that don't like me...they can't even imagine the possibility of having a hard time being with people so they can't relate. No, I have never screwed anyone over--I have too big a guilt and compassion factor to do that, but I have found working with so many women that usually--and I say usually, not always--there is no sacred ground, nothing is off limits if they have a bad day or take something personally. Anyways, thank you so much for your advice and your words. You have truly helped.
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