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Originally Posted by Gleak
Hey Confused Girl,
I know what you're feeling. I'm in a relationship of just over 3 years. At first, everything in our relationship was novel, like new, you know?
So everything was going great and felt really genuine. After a while, the novelty kind of wore off and we were both much more comfortable with each other.
A lot of our time together was spent at home (we live together) watching tv in our pj's and rarely talking.
Try to strike up a conversation with him when you two are together and alone and try to provoke answers to questions you don't even have to ask. What I mean by that is hint to him that you're feeling a little left out in the cold and offer a means for him to make you feel better about the situation.
Relationships are a lot of work, no doubt. Little things like a button being broken shouldn't be stressed. You should save that energy for things that truly matter (finances, kids, careers, etc. You know, things that really may matter to a person)
You could write him a little love note explaining how you felt when you two first got together and how you still feel that initial spark every time you look at him and see what happens.
Little things like that are what make good relationships great :P
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Hi Gleak,
Thank you sooo much for replying - didnt think anyone would!
I really appreciate your reply, but I have tried writing to him and telling him what is bugging me and how i feel about the relationship but he seems to have a sorrier story, saying I am to blame for all the happenings.
Whilst I understand everything you have said and totally agree, he doesnt and I dont know how to make him see sense. He things im wrong and he's right and im to blame and hes not! I dont know what to do, we have tried 'having a break' but it didnt work, He means the world to me and i just feel as if I make a strong step forward and he says something and am back at square one.
Should i try tough love and try and play hard to get and not be there for him like i have? do you think that will work?