Gggrrrrrrrr!! Words we use aren't supposed to be able to come back to be used on ourselves! I'm up--not sobbing and not even crying right now--feeling crummy about myself, but then part of me feels ok about myself and anger at him. I guess I can't express the anger right. If someone wants to point out my flaws, go ahead, but I believe in human decency and doing it nice. And certainly don't believe in using people like he used me to get to my manager. You're right though--someone very smart must have told you those words, I guess I'll listen.