I disagree saying that you choose to cry or that you choose to feel your feelings. My therapist has said that about choosing my feelings I hate that!!!! You sound somewhat like a people person to me. You responded to so many of the posts that people wrote to you that gave a damn. That was you wasn't it? Maybe the people at your work just aren't the people you like? I think yourrrrr grrrrrr8. Be kind to yourself with your self-talk. Maybe you could visualize a stop sign everytime you start with the negative self-talk, you could say "stop, I'm running this tape over and over again and I'm not going to do that" then tell yourself some affirmation that you believe. If you don't believe it it wont work. Or just erase my opinion. Im ok with that . What works for one person won't necessarily work for another. See ya. and Hugs.