(((cantstopcrying)))

I hope you can find an equitable & palatable solution to your personnel problems.

I'm another not-a-people-person-people, and it is rough hearing that you make other people feel unliked or unwelcome. Some people just walk around thinking everyone they meet has to like them, that kind of "If someone doesn't like me, it's obviously something wrong with them, not me because hey, everyone likes me!" (Did that even make sense?)

I imagine working in the medical profession or a research setting does generate a lot of interoffice politics, so have you thought about transferring to a position that requires more paperwork & less people? Or maybe even a training position - you just show people how to do their jobs better & there isn't such an emphasis on personal relationships because they'll never see you outside the classroom?

I worked in night audit for a large hotel - I rarely if ever had to deal w/'the public' & my coworkers didn't like me because as night auditor I had to check their work & turn them into management - but I was ok with that because I wasn't expected to engage in small talk - it was discouraged because my integrity might be compromised if I got too friendly w/the staff. Management changed & started expecting me to take on more of a managerial position w/out giving me the backing to do my job, so I quit - & now I'm a help desk tech where the only exposure to the other employees (aside from my 6 coworkers) I have is over the phone.