(((((((((( Kendyll )))))))))))))

I agree with Wanttoheal....regardless of the difficulties that are going on stemming from therapy, no one in the system should be throwing their problems at you and making it personal.

It's hard to do, and I know it can feel mean, but I believe you really need to set your boundaries in this respect. While you may understand and validate, it doesn't mean you have to take the brunt of the anger/fear or whatever emotion they are feeling at the time. Once you can set your boundary, you will find that things will go more smoothly and you shouldn't be attacked in that way any longer. If one of them needs to talk and let things out, there are ways you can help them to do that so you are not the punching bag. Writing, drawing, exercising, cleaning, something physical but appropriate and positive for the release.

Another thing you can do is to say "I see you are feeling angry right now, this is something you should be talking with T about". There is nothing wrong with saying that to help set your boundary


sabby