Hi everyone.
So.. I had a little epiphany last night about my mother. She has NO IDEA how to listen without talking. And when she talks, she can't help but change the subject. In all actuality, I knew this all along throughout my entire life- talking about what's wrong with her "perfect" daughter (aka me) is completely uncomfortable for her- especially when I'm the one bringing it up.
I needed to tell her about this new diagnosis. I needed her to listen. I needed her to be on my side and I needed her to listen. But I feel like I started discussing emotions with her, and how I felt, and did she see certain characteristics in me that are, well.. characteristic of BPD, and she goes..
"So Trenton got his package. I talked to your niece today, well she just kind of whined" (she's only 5 or 6 months old)

WHAT?!?!

I am trying to connect with her. It's really freaking difficult. She's the best at avoiding what's really going on. How do I get her to see that I need her to listen, without such drastic measures as I've tried before? Obviously they didn't work.

I wish I thought I was taking this all out of context. But when I tried to start the conversation again later- same thing "well, i'm going to get the fabric for the dresses tomorrow. Do you want Megan to come stay with you while I'm out of town?"
This happens 9/10 times in a conversation with her.

GRRRRRR
Any advice?