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Originally Posted by Pink_Lotus
I have been living with my boyfriend for over two years and he has told me that he has no intention of getting married. He sees the wedding its self as a waste of money (which I sort of agree with), feels that a legally binding agreement is not necessary for two people to be committed to each other, and has stated that he isn't ready to be "that committed".
I don't know what to do. Am I glamourizing marriage? I have sentimental reasons for wanting to get married - I love him and I want a ceremony to say to everyone we know that we are a committed couple, and ask for their blessing, so to speak (we're not religious). When I think about it I can't think of a good, logical reason to get married other than it being sentimental... Am I being possessive, maybe branding him as mine?
What I need is people with experience to lay it out for me - the good and bad things about marriage. What are good reasons to get married, and what are the pitfalls, as in your experience or what you have seen with others. I was raised by monogamous parents, there is no history of divorce on either side of my family, and his parents are still married as well. Am I just expecting marriage because I was brought up that way?
I need help!
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I guess I am not the right person to give you advice. My husband and I got married 14 years ago, after we lived together for 7 years. We wanted to have a party, make our bond official. It's not as if we thought it would make our love different, which it didn't. We had a good life together, still we had a divorce almost two years ago. We are still good friends by the way. What I mean to say, married or not married, it's all about the relationship you already have. Official marriage doesn't say anything about that. Please value the love that exists between you and your partner.