Chrise, tell him how hard you work to keep those symptoms in check, and how you are feeling now.

I've always identified with BPD (since I have understood it, anyway), and I meet the criteria, and I would know about that. But nobody wants to call me borderline because I don't seem that out of control. I do a lot of splitting, and have a lot of the dissociative symptoms, and can be extremely self-destructive and feel like I don't/shouldn't exist. But I turn my rage inward and hold it there, or take it out on myself, sometimes in subtle ways, and sometimes I hide it.

Kendyll is right though about dx. It doesn't matter nearly so much as that the treatment you get addresses your needs. A lot of therapists avoid the BPD label because it has so many negative connotations. Especially with patients who don't seem unpleasant to work with. They are trying to do us a favor or pay us a compliment. But sometimes it does feel invalidating that they don't recognize what we are really dealing with, doesn't it?