OMG yes it is hard - that took huge courage and you did it! and you now have better clarity! It is only due to this site that i have also taken risks like that with t. I had seen online somewhere that t was thinking about moving to Africa in "a couple of years", which would have meant next year and I sat on that info for 8 months or something. I finally told her in an email and she confronted it last session - said I need to tell her when i see/hear things or have something that bothers me. She said she's traveling to Africa for a few weeks (not set up yet) to start up a new sister clinic to hers. But live there, no. *whew*. ALways best to ask what we are wondering, then we don't have to sit in the pain of not knowing. (((((((Hangingon))))))))))