(((((((((bali))))) Been there, hon. It is very, very hard. When my S.O. was arrested for non payment, he had actaully been paying the kids money they needed for things and buying groceries with the rest (mom spent money on drugs and herself) but because it wasn't going through FOC, he was arrested. Gotta love the FOC system here in MI. Try your hardest to focus on you during this time...you need care,too!