I guess I am not the right person to give you advice. My husband and I got married 14 years ago, after we lived together for 7 years. We wanted to have a party, make our bond official. It's not as if we thought it would make our love different, which it didn't. We had a good life together, still we had a divorce almost two years ago. We are still good friends by the way. What I mean to say, married or not married, it's all about the relationship you already have. Official marriage doesn't say anything about that. Please value the love that exists between you and your partner.