Lillyann~
's and many more. I've become more vocal in the past couple of years with my husband - used to just put up with his anger, frustrations, and blaming anything and anyone else instead of taking responsibility himself. If you haven't already, when he fires off at you and blaming you, maybe face him, take a deep breath and calmly say, "Dear, where do you fit in all of this? Where do your responsibilities lie?" and then walk off. That made my husband slow down long enough in his accusations to think. We've been married 25 years now and I've finally worked up the nerve to stand up for myself.
You need to take care of yourself and it's not selfish to think that way. When you do, you'll be able to move on - with or without him. If you don't take care of yourself, it will only complicate things even more. You will feel better too. Keep us posted - we care!
Hugs,
Einna