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Originally Posted by DutchGirl
My friend is convinced that having another relationship will only strengthen the one you already have. He says that monogamy restricts people, makes them feel guilty when they fall in love with someone else. I have to admit that during my marriage of 12 years (I divorced almost two years ago) I was sometimes attracted to other men. I always fought those feelings very hard. But still I felt guilty, I felt I betrayed my husband and our love, although I loved him as much as ever. Sometimes I wonder how it would have been if he we had had an open relationship.
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I've heard this before, about how the second relationship with strengthen the first, and it just does not make sense to me. But some people do have way too high expectations for life with their one spouse. Personally I think emotional fidelity is more important than sexual fidelity (though me I do both). I could overlook sex outside of marriage under the right circumstances, but not a full second relationship with the same status as mine.
You're an independent self-sufficient adult with no kids so if you don't want to dump this guy right away why not see where it goes?