Mouse, with the NPD I have sensed that those with it have no schema for anyone else, so therefore there is nothing there to hold that person in? I assumed that this was due to lack of empathy that was due to fear?

I could call my mom today and tell her that I don't like cooked carrots and she will say "really, I didn't know that" (Actually I have since found out that I just don't like her cooked carrots!) (My husband and I used to have fun with this. We would bring it up frequently and wait for her reply and then smile at each other) Anyway, she only does this with me. She can remember a lot about other people. I think that I cause her anxiety because I'm able to get close to her and this scares the .... out of her and makes her distance me?????