Something you have to remember and keep telling yourself is that it is your life. Do you want to buy the house or do you have other dreams and plans? Removing what they say about you, what do you think about you when you do your make up right and look just right? A saying that I really really really hate but *****sigh***** is true is no one can MAKE you feel a certain way, you ALLOW yourself to feel a certain way in reaction to someone or something. Blah! But next time your brother tells you that you eat too much, ask "too much for what? For me it's just right." When your mom gets upset about college...maybe it's taking longer than she thinks it should...say, "mom, please know I'm doing the best I can and I would hope that that is all you can ask of me. I know you would do it differently if it were you, but it's not" and give her a hug. (The hug will throw her off ). The best thing you do, in my opinion, when your brother is too harsh on his kids is hug them and compliment on other things; let them know they're good kids. I have one of those toxic families, too. Growing up my sister used to say, "you're going out like that?" That being maybe a long skirt and sweater, or jeans or a favorite pair of pants. Oooh, got a good one for you. About 12 years ago I had some Glamour Shots pictures done. I showed my mom who proceeded to say, "These are so beautiful, they don't look anything like you!" Stab me know and kick me!!! It is so hard to do when you let their toxicity affect you. Please, know that I offer that hand pictured above sincerly and know you are not alone.