oh, maymie, I'm sorry! what a tough situation for you to be in...

toxic families can do such damage to us that we sometimes we forget that we don't have to take their abuse...
CSC, offered very good advice and I hope you are able to use it!
it's hard at first to tell them that we will no longer allow them to treat us that way--sure does surprise them when we respond in entirely new and different ways.
start off slowly 'cause it's easier to build up your courage and determination to keep at it.

be kind to yourself, maymie. no one else will when they know you are not kind to yourself--accepting their abuse is not loving yourself.
one step at a time is a good way to start

Cap