Hello Okie.

Like you and WI Fighter, I am "recovering" from a relationship. My circumstances are different. I was abruptly and unexpectedly abandoned by a mate of 15 years. Lost every thing, and even placed my dogs into loving homes, as I dealt with what has been diagnosed as PTSD, "adjustment disorder" and severe depression. I look back on a happier balanced me and wonder who the heck that dame was.

This all happened 22 months ago -- and I am still crawling out of the pit.

My heart goes out to both of you and what you are going through.

I highly recommend two books: Crazy Time, nonfictin, and Jennifer Crusie's Fast Women, which has some excellent descriptions of what post-divorce, post-relationship, is emotionally like.

I hope you'll find comfort and help here, Okie.