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Old Nov 11, 2008, 06:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Bloose View Post
I have been recently discovering (!) behaviors toward my family (i.e. saying terribly hurtful things which I can't believe I said). I have no idea why I would say these things but hearing them back from my wife and/or daughter is awful and is making me wonder if I am losing my grip...

I love my family deeply and really am trying to be a good husband.
Bloose, first let go of the guilt. U R to hard on yourself. Have you considered that maybe you are using defensive hurtful tactics to protect yourself? Maybe you are very afraid of abandonment, betrayal or love. You r not losing your grip. The fact that u r aware of it is a great start to healing. Forgive yourself and your family. You r a good man and a good husband. Get some help to resolve your conflict. Cognitive behavioural therapy is very good for this.