i did ask him and he said that he knows it would make him uncomfortable. thats why he always tells me when hes talked to her etc... because he wants me to know whats going on. and they actually havent talked in a couple weeks. she did something a couple weeks ago that made him really mad so he gave up trying to be nice to her. hes not comparing me to her. hes been hurt by her and is afraid ill do the same thing which is understandable. i cant hold that against him. i sometimes overreact because i assume hes going to do something because an ex of mine has so how can I get mad at him for doing that? and since i brought it up to him and he apologized he hasnt acted that way anymore.

he is confused but not about whether he wants me or her. he wants me but is scared to get into a serious, commited relationship because of how he was burned last time. and its not the needing space thats the problem, its his way of communicating it and he sees that.

since ive gotten really insecure about them 2 still being friends he has opened up about how their relationship was and i see now that, after being through what he has, theres no way he wants her back. but that doesnt mean they cant be friends. thats why my ex and i broke up. we realized that we can be awesome friends, just not in a relationship. and i want him to have someone who knows all about him for him to count on y'know? until i get to that point where i know everything there is to know about him, i kinda expect him to still have an attachment and i dont see anything wrong in that. every time i have suspected something of going on i have been proven wrong so i trust him.

but thanks for your concern.