kvinneakt, don't sweat the small stuff, even family. My dad is like your parents and I told him that I was me, that I was his son, and what I did was mine to do. Of course we only "talk" every now and then, in writing only. But, I got over it, I have my own life to live. That's what everyone here should do, you are an individual, you are not "others" property, even if they "made" you.

Forgoten, same thing. If they only want to be in your life to hurt you, then don't allow them into your life. Get caller ID so they can't phone and tell them that your "space" (home, etc..) is off limits until they treat you as an individual with your own needs and wants.

It may seem hard to "disown" family or relatives but if they're not there to support you as yourself, you surely don't need them in your life to do harm.

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