Can you go and be proud of yourself that you let her know how inconsistent you found her comment? I bet she is proud of you. Next step is to be able to talk to her about it when it happens, instead of waiting until later and phoning. I think you're doing great, ECHOES. I think it interesting that you are finding your T much more engaged in the topic of renewed contact with your friend than you are. I bet she will find it interesting that you see that in her and it will help her look at herself to see if she is following her path or yours.

Courage for tomorrow. Just walk through the door, and it will be OK.