I am in such a predicament right now and I feel so alone. My best friend is a gay guy and I am attracted to him in every way. I started having feelings for him though before I knew he was gay. He started dating a guy back in August and they're still together, and since then I've just been having the strangest feelings. We used to spend so much time together but now that he has a boyfriend I don't see him as often. People think to seem my situation is funny or completely ridiculous because my friend is gay and nothing is going to ever happen between us, which is completely true but I am having an unbelievably difficult time accepting it. I remember him telling me once that he didn't want me to ever get a boyfriend because he was afraid I would spend more time with the boyfriend and less time with him, and now, ironically, I feel like he is doing this to me. The other night I told him that the reason why I was upset was because we used to spend so much time together and now I don't get to see him as often, so my solution to this was to spend less time together (I actually un-invited him from an event I am going to with another friend this weekend). It was incredibly hard to do because I care about him so much, but I really think I should try to separate myself from him a little. We are also graduating from college soon and going to different medical schools and everytime I think about this and not seeing him, I get so sad. I don't know if this has anything to do with my desire to be apart from him or not. I'm just incredibly confused as you can all probably tell and I can't get my mind off of him. I'm a pretty easy-going, laid back person and I'm not really emotional, so I just don't know how to handle my feeligs for him and how to handle this entire situation. Does anybody have any kind of positive advice??
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