Holy crap!!!
Are you two reading my mind ?Damn that has happenend to me. Lost a friend and most recently lost my girlfriend because I was isolating and she needed more attention. I even told her about my depression, called her and told her I couldn't go to her house that weekend because I was stuck in the darkness and she couldn't handle it.
1, I need to remember that their behavior is about them. I know that I'm working on myself and don't want to stay sick.
2. I deserve to have people in my life who love and care about me and have patience w. me. This is really hard. People get pissed. So sometimes you will lose people but not all the time. I have to make a conscious effort to call them so when I get low they won't know or get as effected if they do know.
3. True friends will stick through it with you as you would for them.
4. I do need to look at it from their point of view and think of how I'd feel if i was them. I have major abandonment stuff so this hurts seeing that they might feel abandoned. i had to make an effort to be available for their pain even when I'm going through *****.
Sometimes it helps when I help other people
take care,