I really think the point is whether HangingOn's T actually tricked her into crying or not-- it is that HangingOn mentioned that she feels like she was tricked. Lots of times we know one thing, but we feel another.

It wasn't a trick, but it felt like a trick, and that's what matters.

It probably feels as though she betrayed you because she knows that your comfort level is. Unfortunately, part of therapy is getting out of our comfort zone. If we were going to stay with the same barriers and resistances that we have, why waste money on therapy? It's part of the process to deal with things that we have kept locked down. It can feel really bad, I know.

Tell your T how you felt. Make this part of the process.