I have a tendency to look straight into his eyes when he talks, and look away when I talk. However, after three years my eye contact with him has increased dramtically. It gets to the point in which it is not just eye contact-- it is a major part of the connection and the healing. T and I spend a lot of time in silence, especially since my dad died. Sometimes after sharing a period of silence, I will just look up at him into his eyes. It is very powerful and I can feel the reciprocity of the connection.