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Old Nov 13, 2008, 06:32 PM
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Originally Posted by hangingon View Post
I have a hard time with contfrontation,
Its not that I don't feel anger, or in my case more frustration, I internalize it rather than release it.

I would like to learn how to release it but I have always viewed people yelling, arguing ect as intrusive.

I am very uncomfortable with it because thats exactly how my dad was growing up and I promised myself I would never hurt people like that.

I can be particulary oversensitive to others feelings while I smother my own, thinking I can handle it better than them.
Hi Hangingon, confrontation doesn't have to be ugly. I guess your dad's modeling set a huge example.

So you deny your needs for others? That's a common theme for a lot of us. We grew up without our needs being met and had to meet the needs of someone else in the family. Unless we recognize this and correct it we continue the pattern.

When I started with all of this stuff I would just calmly state the problems that I had with what happened to the other person. You better believe my heart was pounding! but with practice it gets better.
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