Gosh timftz, my heart really goes out to you for what you must be going through mentally, emotionally and physically. I do understand that at times it must be completely overwhelming and at the same time, the future must seem very daunting. I see you doing the right thing by reaching out for help...help here, help through therapy (although you may need to switch therapists if this guy is truly not focusing on the real issues), and just as importantly, your wife needs counseling, very badly. I also believe she's needs inpatient hospitalization to get the bp undercontrol and to get proper meds at the proper dosage. I'm just coming through a particularly bad cycle myself and I needed meds this time, usually I don't. Your wife may not go willingly, there are actions you can take to have her committed without her permission. I know that sounds extreme, but it sounds to me like your in an extreme situation that needs immediate attention.

You are an outstanding husband to try to confront this issue rather than running from it or trying to sweep it under the rug. You've humbled yourself to ask for help and that is a HUGE step for the both of you.

I wish there were some magic thing I could say to make it all better. I wish there were something I could say to offer you some profound insight. But there isn't. I can offer you support and I can offer you empathy. I can offer my own personal experience being the one who's in your wife's shoes.

Please keep us posted.
TgrsPurr.