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Originally Posted by hangingon
Has anyone else done this before without at least addressing it with thier therapist first? I feel like I am doing something horrible but I don't want to tell my T incase I do end up remaining with her. I would think that would injure where we are now in therapy.
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I haven't done this, but I do not think you are doing anything horrible. You are taking responsibility for your own life, and exploring options. Maybe you need to do this yourself, without the guidance of T?
I would encourage you to talk about this with T when you are ready. T is not there to judge you, but to help you. How you feel about the therapeutic relationship is *very* important. I regularly talk with my T about our relationship, what I need from him, and how I'm perceiving his words/actions. It was really scary at first to talk about those things, but now I enjoy the openness of the relationship.
IMHO, go ahead and do this on your own. Meet the new T, and check it out. Then, once you have all the information, you can talk about it with your current T. If you had to have surgery, would you feel like getting a second opinion was wrong?
