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I think it is a good thing that you are recognizing that you might not be getting what you need from T, and are willing to look at other options. My Teacher T told me that as we learn and grow and heal, we often need to move on to someone or something else. She said that she is my teacher for right now, but someday, I may find that I need a different teacher, and that is okay.

When I went to see Teacher T, I did tell T about it first. But I was going to consult about my kids, which isn't an area he works in, so it was sort of unrelated to my own therapy. However, it did suddenly turn into a possibility that I would see her instead of him. He and I processed that a LOT, and my gut told me to stay with him, and we worked out the solution of me having T, and having a Teacher.

This is your life, and your journey. You are not betraying T by looking around to see who else is out there that might help you on your path. I do think that this is worth talking to your T about though....sometimes the things we perceive in T are not the reality of what is going on. It's hard, but I do try to tell T when I worry that he's thinking certain things, that he doesn't care, etc. And we talk about it. If I didn't do that with him, I'm sure I would have left long ago just based on my own assumptions, which were usually incorrect....that is MY experience though.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, however you decide to do it. When I was trying to choose a T before I started therapy, my T (before he was my T) told me "pay attention, and you'll make the right decision". He was right.