wi, i wish i could help you there. my ex was extremely verbally/emtionally abusive and twice physically abusive.

my daughter is now 23 and ready to be married. she still doesn't know any of this. i never told her the ugliness. however, her father became the "perfect father" when we divorced. i'd do it all over again, just for that reason.

i wish i knew what to tell you. i wouldn't tell them anything unless they asked. they might just want to stay "away" from it when they can. if they asked, i would cautiously answer ONLY what they asked...depending on ages.

i know this isn't much help you're going to the domestic abuse shelter...can you ask their advice on this? they're well skilled in this area. also, have you looked into therapy for yourself and your children?

i wish you well. gl today at work dear.

kd