Most time we all get into a frame of mind someone needs to be fixed and we can change them with love and understanding I have learned over the years it does not work people are who they are and the warning signs are there I dont think he will change he has issues only he can work through you should do some long thinking is this who you could see spending your life with maybe have a family with if not then what is the point I would dump him and move on to someone that is ready to love you all the time and is in the same place you are. I wish you the best what ever you decide just remeber if you choose to stay dont complain because this is who he is and what you chose Marriage and kids dont make it better only worse. Rember LOVE SHOULD NEVER HURT. IF IT DOES IT IS NOT LOVE.