I have major depression (medicated), PTSD, anger issues, and am generally a mess. My husband is the only child of an unmedicated paranoid-schizophrenic. He claims he dealt with the issues of his childhood abuse at age 6, so good for him! My problem is that he will not let me be me. He has to have contstant praise and attention, and even witty comments tend to set him off. We went through marriage counseling earlier this year, and I gave my all to make him happy. We were until he decided we should have an open marriage. That is another post. He is becoming increasingly hard to deal with, demanding, and wants my every action to mirror his. He things I should say and do things just like he does. He thinks he never makes mistakes, and when he does, they are my fault. Some action I did caused it. He also recently destroyed my property so that he could show me there are consequences to my actions. (I call him names when I am angry, it's like I lose control). He belittles me, and puts me down to the point that I lose it. I grew up with a father who was never satisfied, and I need his approval. This time I am really ready to file for separation and divorce, but I am so scared. I have a beautiful six year old, and I know he will do all he can to take her from me. I hate him now. My therapist thinks he has issues, and our marriage therapist says he needs his own therapist, but he thinks that he has no issues, and that he only needs to learn to deal with me. I am at my wit's end. He calls me selfish because I ask for what I need to be happy from him. Every issue I try to talk to him about gets countered with what he needs. He is narcissistic and self-centered. Sorry for the long post, but everyone I know is tired of hearing about all this, and they think I should leave. I just hurt so bad. I cannot stand to look at him and endure all the hate that pours out of him. We have been married almost 12 years.