Hi Alikat --

When I look at the title of your post, my sense is that it may express a deep inner wisdom that you don't like and so want confirmation for.

It's nice to believe that someone who has left may come back someday. I'm sure it has helped to sustain me through some of the bleak pain of early separation. And I expect it sustains others too. I also suspect that it doesn't happen far more often than it does. But who cares if it's probable or not? If it relieves the pain for a bit, until we can contemplate the likelihood of it with greater sanity, we are going to hang on to that hope.

And who knows, maybe it will happen!

Another thing I'd mention is that you may have been the "rebound" lover. This often is not the ideal position to occupy in someone's heart. It is a tender and special place in his heart, to be sure, and he will never forget you for being there for him. But it is not the heart-place that you want to occupy.

It also seems that he really hasn't left you any choice but to let him go for now. He moved to a different department and has cut off the kinds of contact that you want. You'd have to become a stalker if you try to put things back the way they were, and that, of course, is not going to succeed either.

I'm sad for you. Heartbreak, loss,is a very sad place to be. Please keep coming back and let us know how you are doing.