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Originally Posted by pegasus
((((((( nowheretorun )))))))  
I have known you for a long time now on these boards. Much wisdom comes from you and your positivity has carried me through many a time. I like your honesty in saying how it is.
I would like to say this though, from my point of view, enabling people is not always about agreeing with someone. Hugs and love are needed for people who never received that as children... but also an adult part needs to come in and say, 'For goodness sake get off your backside!' Yes, I have to be harsh at times in order to motivate those that have no motivation.
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thanks to everyone for your replies and support
i understand the ideas of 'tough love' .. what i have learned is that after pressuring others into having things the way i believe are right, they have a few choices.. one is agree with me, one is disagree, the other is talk about it.. talking about it is not the same as tough love.. talking about it opens doors.. tough love sometimes closes them as in my fathers situation.. right is right, but people are human and cant be contained in a box of 'right and wrong' ..
i try very hard to understand why or how a person becomes the person they are and then try to find ways that helps them feel more healthy about themselves now and in their own future..
being 'sharp' has its downside and i try to avoid it as much as possible, but still i get where you're coming from Pegs..
sometimes people just need to be shown how something is and then given their own choices.. if ill health is chosen, what can a healthier individual really do? so far, ive found no way to force good health on anyone..
intervention is one exception i keep open tho..