I have been to quite a few sites. This is the only one that I always come back too. I like how it is set up for one but mostly I like the people here. It is a nice mix of people with different difficulties helping one another. Some of the other sites were oriented only toward one illness. I liked BPD sanctuary for a short while but grew resentful about the fact that all our posts were screened before they went on the boards. Other boards I went too it was all sniping and griping and I couldn't figure out why everyone was so mad at each other. I mean geez, one person would disagree with another and all hell would break loose. Here we agree to disagree, are curtious of each other and if things get to the snippy stage we can take it to the pm and work out our differences there instead of on the boards. I like that.

There was one board I went to for a little while which was progress oriented. I thought "Oh cool, this is a positive thing" but after a couple of days I found it to be cold and mean spirited. No one was allowed to ever whine about about anything. If someone just needed to whine a little bit they would tell her that she was choosing to be a victim and that she should just knock it off. I like it here because we can whine once in awhile and when we do we get a hug and some positive ideas on how to feel better. That is true support.

Another one I went to was like a pissing contest. Who was the sickest and how much sicker can I be to get the most attention or the most approval. That wasn't supportive at all and most definately enabling.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson