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Old Apr 07, 2005, 08:32 PM
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Hi Starbright

I too have felt that way on a few boards - like I was the "fifth wheel on the wagon" or I felt rejected. While it hurt me deeply, it is also very true (as was already pointed out here) that an individual's disorder can often cloud thier perception of how people see them and it's so easy (especially on the internet) to misjudge other people's view of you (ie; "I only got one reply so people must not like me very much"), etc. I'm not saying this was the case with you or anything (just trying to sort it out a bit).

A lot of people here have serious issues (myself included) and replying to someone's post (no matter how urgently they may need help) is mainly contingent upon how I am feeling at the moment but it does'nt ever mean that I don't want to help that person. Anxiety, panic, depression and other disorders sometime become so totally debilitating that it's often impossable to muster up the strength to post. Still other times, a person may be able to relate to something said in one post but not necessarily in another (similar) post.

Finally, I used to notice that someone elses (similar) question was getting a great deal of attention and mine was not. This would make me feel hurt or even jealous until I soon realized that this other person's post was several days older than mine and thus had more time to elicit replies. Still other times, if two posts contain similar content, people may not bother responding to the newest one because they might figure that the subject has already been addressed.

These are just a few factors involved and I thought I would mention them. I do very much hope you will stay:-)