Well my mom and I aren't getting along at all. I'm sure you all are tired of hearing about it. But I'm in need of help, opinions or whatever. She drives me crazy. If I disagree with her than she reminds me she is helping me pay for stuff. If I don't do something she wants me to do then she reminds me that she is helping me pay for stuff. Like the other day..she asked me a question and I answered her. I don't think I was mean but I did answer and it wasn't what she wanted to hear and then she says "well I'd think you'd agree with me. I am helping you pay for stuff." Yes, she helps me but for two reasons:1) she's really all I have, I don't have grandparents and my dad is no use and 2) because she makes sure I need her help. There are a couple of bills that are for me but she keeps them from me and so she pays for them and I don't see the bill. She knows I don't know how much the bill was or that I didn't see it. She does it because she wants to have that bill over my head. So later on she can say hey you better agree with me or you better not talk about moving out or whatever because I paid for this bill and that bill. But how do I pay for a bill I never see. Thats the issue I have about school I need my tuition paid but I don't want her to be able to hold that above my head like everything else. Then there is the surgery that I really need. Its nothig major but its cosmetic issues and problems me, yet again its not major. The surgery was and I guess is going to be my birthday/christmas present from her but yet again, I hate to have her pay for it because its one more thing over my head. People say why would she hold it over your head when its a christmas and birthday present but my mom will. Don't disagree, don't put me second, don't leave me, don't forget to check in, don't talk about moving out because I paid for this or that.
I'm at a loss and I need help. I don't know what to do. I really want the surgery and think it will help me but I don't want her to be able to have it above my head. Please help.
I will post about the surgery I'm talking about in the womens issue room as I'm kind of embarrassed to go into detail here about it. I know thats probably childish but still.