Hi maymie...
This sounds like the never ending argument. There is no winner because each has their own rights to being right...You both need each other,,,but for very different reasons...but maybe not so different...
How about going to the drug store,,,my favorite place there,,,the card isle...should have bought stock in Hallmark after all the cards I buy from them...
Pick a good one,,one she would really appreciate and one which could only come from you...
And inside...put pretty much all that you just posted...spruce it up a bit with some reasons you Love her,,which I'm sure you do...and give it to her...
You might be surprised what Truth delivered in such a way can do...
With care,
Lenny