Hello everyone!

This is my first post on these forums, and also the first time I've ever talked about this problem, and because of that I'm not sure how to get started, but here it goes:

I'm 21 years old, and I've had a hard time communicating with women all my life (generally with women of roughly my age). I generally get really nervous when I speak to women, and can't come up with anything witty to say (well, anything at all would be more accurate). When I was younger (15-18), I was in contact with women more often (even though I was certainly no Casanova back then, either). This was partially do to the fact that back then, there were actually women studying the same subjects as me at school, and also because there were some girls that hanged in the same "gangs" back then. Nowaday though, I rarely communicate with women at all unless necessary, and this is something I need to do something about. Generally the only time I talk to women nowadays is when I'm at a bar with friends and I'm pretty damn toasted, or when there isn't much choise (say, when I'm at the school nurse). I'd also like to add that, while I might speak to women when I'm drunk, I'm still way too shy to actually suggest that I'm interested in them. I mean how silly is that? I try to pull myself together week after week, but when I see a girl I'm attracted to, I just freeze. I feel like I'm wasting my life sitting infront of my computer, when what I should actually be doing is to find a girlfirend and start to focus on things that actually matter. Granted, I'm probably not the first person in history to feel this way, but considering my age, I'd rather not keep sitting and rolling my thumbs until I come up with a solution. I'd be interested to know what you think I should do about this? I've thought about going to therapy many times, but I've got a feeling I wouldn't be able to tell this to a therapist, any more than I'm currently able to tell that cute girl at the bar how I feel about her.

PS. I'm not completely sure if this is the correct forum for this post, so I'm sorry if this is the wrong one.