Okay.

Good for you on trying.

Well then,,if she is using her help as a tool to control you and ther is nothing you can do to change her view of "help'...

Then you either change how you view her methods,,or you stop taking her help.

That may not be what you would like to hear,,but unfortuanley we have little control over other people and some over ourselves...

I hope you find a way..

We are here,

Lenny